Men regret abortion

 

"I was a participant in two abortions with my ex-wife...It has been six years since the last abortion, nine since the decision for the first one. Every time I see children of the approximate age of the two lost ones, I cry, no matter where...church, the mall, the park, and the library. I want to call their names, Michelle, Danielle, Stephen, William. Their legacy is gone. Their beauty unfinished nullified by a decision to which I agreed...I have gone from pro-choice to pro-child."

E-mail message from a Father to Human Life Alliance
St. Croix Valley Life Care Center Website

I will always feel the effects abortion

 "At the time this happened I was her boyfriend of just a few months. We found out she was pregnant and quickly decided to have an abortion. I took her to the abortion clinic and paid for the procedure. No one at the clinic really talked to me about the procedure, they just took the money. There were no immediate effects. However, 7 years later after we eventually married, she began to feel very guilty and depressed over the abortion. It made me think that maybe we had done the wrong thing. Our parents got involved after we had told them what had happened. I've tried to find someone who could help us with these feelings. She started attending a group and then went on to weekly therapy. I went to some of the meetings, including speaking with a VERY understanding Priest. It's been over a year of therapy and she is feeling even better, but we still have some sad days. This one mistake will probably change the way we think for the rest of our lives together. I may not have actually had the abortion (being the boyfriend and now husband), but I will always feel the effects of it and my own thinking and opinions on abortion have changed. I have also learned a lot from my wife about the entire issue."

St. Croix Valley Life Care Center Website

Love, dad

"Dear Justin, Its been 38 years since you were sent to heaven before birth. Yet to this day I miss you. With every hug from my grandson, I feel you touching my face and hugging my neck. You brother is a doctor. I know the two of you could have had great times together. I pray the day will come when you and he run the length and breadth of heaven for eternity. May your spirit ever be remembered here on earth? I am thankful Jesus forgave me for sending you home too early. I pray the day will come you and I can hold one another forever. I love you and pray eternal peace upon you. "
Love, 

Freemetolive.com

"One evening she told me in two simple words, "It's done." Despite the fact that I would have raised the child with or without her, I couldn't choose to be a father. I don't think a single day has passed where I've prayed and I've cried about it, but nothing is going to change. The one thing that I thought would become the greatest joy in life has become the greatest pain. It hurts more than words could ever describe. I feel empty - as if a part of me is missing. And I felt helpless - because there was nothing I could do about it - because she went and had the abortion without me, even knowing that I wanted to be there for this child"

Adam
TeenBreaks.com

We did not know what we were doing

"Emma and I did not know what we were doing, and we did not know what our son’s loss would do to us. We did not understand the feelings we had after the abortion, nor did we know how to deal with them. If we tried to discuss his loss, there was anger, yelling, accusations, or outright dismissal of the subject with a joke or quick turn of phrase. I think that we believed by ignoring what happened, the whole thing would just go away and things could go back to the way they were. But things could not, and would not, ever be the same."

David
Silent no More Awareness Campaign

I let the doctors kill my child

" On January 15th, my wife and I let the doctors kill Emmanuelle. I sat nearby quietly praying while the doctor inserted a huge needle into my wife’s belly as she lay sedated, and injected a salt solution straight into the heart of my precious daughter killing her instantly. Afterward I thought, how could I ask God to bless me after what I have done? When my wife went to the doctor for her post abortion check up, she learned that the doctor had taken a picture of Emmanuelle after she was aborted. I suppose it is a picture of her lying dead on the table shortly after the delivery. I’ve never looked at the picture. I still cannot believe that my wife brought home that picture home. I don’t know if my marriage can ever be restored. I look at my wife and am reminded of the sin we committed. Though I love my two beautiful children, I am constantly reminded that one is missing. How will I tell my children about their sister in heaven? Will I ever be free of the guilt and shame? I look forward to the day when I can ever so humbly ask her for forgiveness."  

Eric
Silent no More Awareness Campaign

The pain worsens year by year

"Ten years ago my then-girlfriend had an abortion. We were in our mid-20s, poor and directionless, and it seemed at the time the only thing to do.My ex loves her husband more than the world. I love my wife. The ex and I are simply attempting to understand how to deal with the fact that we, two people who loved each other, created a life and then destroyed it. This past August our child would have been 10 years old. She feels so terrible about this that it is almost destroying her. I feel the same way, but of course for a woman it is much worse. Instead of getting better, the pain worsens year by year."

Emotionally Drained in Chicago (Writing for advice)
Salon.com: We're haunted by an abortion from 10 years ago, 10-14-2005

How ever can I explain it? Tell me, where to begin?

To try and justify the cause of just another sin?

I remember the day she told me, and the fear within her eyes.

I hid my love for you behind "It’s your decision lies."

How could I fight a verdict that she so quickly made?

All I could do was love her and try and ease her pain.

I guess I always thought that atonement could be mine-

If we had another child someday we could undo this tragic crime.

I wish that I could blame her, to help relieve my guilt,

But I only blame myself, and I know I always will.

I should have protected you instead of her or me.

But I loved her so much, living for her touch…

That’s what I hope you’ll see.

Now, I see you up in Heaven, your finger pointing down,

Upon the lap of Christ, millions of innocents, gathered ‘round.

Knowing you are in Heaven offers some relief to me.

Because our all-forgiving God has promised to set me free.

I know we’ll be joined together, as family once again

When our time on earth is over and our eternity can begin.

So please forgive us both, for such a selfish task

Just let her know you love her, it’s all I’ll ever ask.

The Jericho Plan, Breaking down the walls,
which prevent post-abortion healing
by: David C. Reardon

Obituary placed after son is aborted

Kansas City Star Obituaries
June 5, 2002

Zachary Duncan Draper
December 2001 - May 17, 2002

Memorial services were held June 1, 2002, at D.W. Newcomer's Oaklawn Memorial Gardens, Olathe, KS. Zachary Duncan Draper was beautiful as his mother, loved by God and others. My little baby boy didn't make it to his Daddy's arms. I never got to hold and kiss him, tell him stories or read him rhymes. I love you Zachary and look forward to seeing you in heaven. Survivors include his father, Brad Draper of Kansas City, MO and his mother, of Overland Park, KS. (Arrangements: D.W. Newcomer's Sons Johnson County Funeral Chapel.)

" The culture of death affects more than just the innocent babies killed in abortuaries. It reaches out and touches all of us, and always in tragic ways. The story of Zachary Duncan Draper and his father, Brad Draper, drive this point home. The father placed an obituary in a Kansas newspaper after he learned that his son had been aborted. Brad Draper, 44, never got to hold his son, love him and see him grow because his girlfriend, had the butchers at a Planned Parenthood clinic rob him of those joys. She did not even bother telling Brad Draper she was going to kill Zachary. On Sept. 10, Brad Draper shot himself in front of that very Planned Parenthood clinic. He died the next day. Why Sept. 10 ? That was the date Zachary was due to be born."

Telegraph Herald (Dubuque, IA)
Abortion touches all of us 11-18-2002

Rock climbers book review shows abortion affects

David Roberts , Veteran climber and Colorado native, comments on why he poured himself into rock climbing: He explains in his new book," On the Ridge Between Life and Death: A Climbing Life Reexamined" that during his senior year, his girlfriend became pregnant and his parents arranged for her to have an abortion.

The shame of the situation weighed heavily on him, and he retreated further into climbing.

"I made in a sense a lasting decision - to seek the meaning of my existence not in the wilderness of love and intimacy, but in the terra incognita of the precipice."

Though Roberts changed his girlfriend's name to protect her privacy, he is bracing himself for criticism for including her in the book.

 "I think a lot of climbers will say that the pregnancy had nothing to do with my climbing,"

 Roberts believes it did.